Happiness

It was no long time ago I read about a study which claimed that people think that certain things (usually materia) will bring lot of happiness. The researcher claimed that new car or other new item does not bring that much happiness as people think. Happiness comes from elsewhere.

We are good to believe what we want. After stressing and depressing day one go for a boutique and buy new fancy clothes. Buying new clothes is accepted because they are believed to give happiness or relief in between stressing everyday life. Yet next day is again as stressing and depressing and no new clothes is helping with that. Everyone knows how new shirt or car does not give any comfort. I must admit that i have some Maslowian thoughts when it comes to money and materia because it can be hard to be happy if one does not fulfill basic needs. Because of people are able to make comparisons can basic needs be a bit of relative concept.

I have told myself that certain things won´t bring that much happiness. Lately I have been happy but not because of anything I exactly wished for. It is also funny how happiness brings worries –at least in some cases- because one wants to be owner of the happiness forever. Maybe it would be better to accept Freudian idea of life as a pretty much grey thing or a minor struggle one must go through. No big ups and downs. The latter if one keeps healthy in mind.

Two things I am positively sure. Friends and sports. They both make me feel fine aka happy. Sports I haven´t done since three months so I wonder what would happen my happiness. Keeping busy is also one thing not to get bored and depressed. I like travelling, meeting new people and tasting different cultures. Does travelling bring me happiness just because it is keeping me busy or is it the thing itself which makes me happy. Who knows!

I like making new friends when travelling. Some of the new friends become good ones some of them stays occasional beer buddies. Still some of the friends I have make earlier in my life no matter if I had made them when travelling or living somewhere gives happiness to me. Sometimes i tis just enough to know that there are people I care about – maybe some of them care abouts me as well.